Why does fear have such a big hold over us?

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When I read Jane’s blog http://knowboundaries.wordpress.com/2010/11/04/the-fear-factor/I realized that so many of us struggle to confront  our various fears.

The other week I took a few days off and headed to Belgium for a long weekend.  Living in Holland, this was easy we just packed up the car and my husband drove us there.  We had a great time but my husband had to head back a day early due to work commitments so I duly drove him to the nearest station so that the kids and I could stay another day.

The day I was going to drive back with the kids I thought we might as well head to Brussels and visit Mini Europe.  So why am I telling you all this?

Well, I am not that confident a driver!  I’m not as bad as some people I know but I will admit to always taking the same route into town and parking in the same car park no matter what the weather even if it is miles from where I actually want to go!  I don’t like relying solely on the sat. nav. And don’t really enjoy driving on roads I am not used to. Had I spent time thinking about my decision to head to Brussels I would have talked myself out of it.  Instead I told the kids that’s what we were going to do and I then felt I had to go through with it.  So instead of taking the easy option and driving straight back to Holland (which was a big enough thing for me in the first place) we headed for Brussels.

It wasn’t until a friend sounded amazed that I had done this that I realized what an achievement it had been for me.  I had got over my fear by not thinking about it too much and by telling someone else what I was going to do which helped me to feel accountable and now I have something else to add to my personal list of achievements.

Next time you are faced with a challenge don’t spend time on the negative ‘what if’s, harness the energy produced by the fear and just do it – you to might be surprised by the results.


I am a Certified Advanced Resume Writer, Employment Interview Consultant, and Career Coach and it is my aim to help ambitious and motivated people like you become fully empowered to get the job you want.