Remember my 3 secrets to having more confidence?
- What you are focusing on
- The way you are moving and using your body
- The language you are using
Today we will look at how the language you are using affects your confidence.
When I revealed Secret No. 1, I introduced you to the little voice in your head. It is very interesting how the words that you say to yourself in your mind and out aloud impact on how you are feeling.
Take a minute to think about the words you use to describe negative emotions?
Can you see how those negative sayings affect how you feel particularly whether you feel confident or not. That little voice of self doubt is incredibly powerful.
Susan Jeffers covers this very well in her book ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’ and I’d just like to share one very powerful example taken from her book.
How often have you heard yourself saying ‘It’s not my fault…’?
‘It’s not my fault I didn’t get that job, the interview was just too difficult.’
‘It’s not my fault I got a bad appraisal, my boss never has time to help me.’
‘It’s not my fault I don’t have more clients…’
‘It’s not my fault…’
We’re all guilty of it so just take a moment to look at those 4 little words. They are incredibly negative and they make you look completely helpless and irresponsible.
I’d like you to stop being helpless and start taking responsibility for what happens in your life. OK, maybe you didn’t get that job so how about taking some responsibility for it. Tell yourself that you are responsible and start looking for ways to try and ensure that it is less likely to happen again. If you are responsible, you are in control and you can be more prepared next time.
This is only one example of how positive words can make us feel strong so stop feeding yourself negative thoughts that take away your power and confidence.
